Texting: What to Send After a Hookup

Three texts, three moods

If you’d like a repeat, send something.

The blog’s post on texting opens with a reality check. The film version of meeting someone is tidier than real life, which is mostly nerves and second-guessing, but the writer’s view is that taking the jump beats going nowhere. The advice for the morning after follows from that.

It then offers three places to start.

“You up?”

Short, a little flirty and easy to answer, so it asks very little of the other person.

“Mind-blowing”

Suits a night that went well, though the writer says to skip it if you are the one who takes a while to warm up.

Straight praise

A direct compliment on how good they were in bed, which the post recommends when you think they pleased you more than you pleased them.

If you’d rather not go again, the advice is the easiest of all: send nothing. For the manners around texting, saying no kindly and parting well, our hookup etiquette guide goes further. Chatting before you meet is the other half of the job, and the post on online hook ups explains why a few messages come first.