Helpful hints for when you hook up!
For many people, the hardest part of hooking up is, well, actually hooking up with someone. Once that has happened, they take the act of having sex for granted. I can understand why all the focus and effort goes into the hooking up part of the process, it is the bottle neck. It does not matter how good you are in bed, if you never sleep with anyone, they will never know! So effort should be made in the meeting of someone. However, once you have a hook up, if you want them to come back, become more regular, it is a good idea to spend a little time thinking about your technique when you are sleeping with them. It is with this in mind that I present my helpful hints for when you have hooked up!
Calibrate to the person that you are with
The first time you hook up with someone, it can be hard to know what they are into, and how clean or dirty they like to be. If they are pretty vanilla and want to keep things simple, you don’t want to blow the evening by trying to push things into being super dirty or kinky when that’s not what they are into. That being said, you also don’t want to hold back if that is what they are into, particularly if that is also what you are into. My advice for this, is to test the waters. You can do a test with an open ended question, something like “so what would you like me to do to you” is a good open question. Their response will tell you how far to take it. Remember to encourage them no matter what they say, any negative reaction, no matter what they say, could cause them to close up, so be open and welcoming… it does not mean you actually have to do it if it’s not what you are into.
A little lube the first time never hurt
The first time with a new hook up can be a nervous encounter. Make things go that little bit smoother by adding in a little lube! It shows thought, makes things much easier all around, and makes it much more likely that you will have a good time… and all for very little extra cost indeed!
Assume sex is on the table, but do not assume that you are willing to put out
When you first hook up with someone, assuming that sex is on the table is usually a good place to come from in terms of confidence. However, assuming that you are going to put out can bring across a vibe that can turn the other person off. If you are still deciding if you want to have sex with them, this will make them have to work a little to make you want them, and we all appreciate that which we had to put in a little effort to get.
…and remember, have fun!